UPDATE: The name of the speaker is Leo F. Buscaglia
***Last class in organizational behaviour (*giggles* English looks so funny; many versions), we watched a lecture (a tad ancient however still true to today). Anyways, there were a few things that caught my hear.***
Helen Keller said: 'Before my teacher came to me, I lived in a world that was a no-world. I cannot hope to describe adequately that unconscious yet conscious time of nothingness. I did not know that I knew aught, or that I lived or acted or desired'.
Words... they are nothing but phonetic symbols until you assign meaning. Meaning is the emotional and intellectual content around a word. It isn't necessarily universal. Love doesn't need words; it's expressed in your hugs, smiles, laughter, action and listening. There are more actions to express love than words.
We can process more than two to three times more words than we can speak per minute. So what happens in between? We think. What about? Our counter arguments, all the things we have left to do, why the grass is green?
Why not think about what they really mean or too afraid to say. There are good theories of why prayer is so effective... your higher self, God, ancestors etc... are silent. They allow self determination (so do plants, dogs, etc).
Why do we so often dish out advice right away... "if I were you..." but you're not me. Denying one's experiences is a tragedy. Each and every experience is unique to each individual person. You can empathize but you'll never truly know unless I tell you how I honestly feel. Why not ask? Why not just listen.
Why are haters always so vocal and lovers not so much? Why don't people hug more? Are their arms going to fall off? Love truly doesn't hurt... it's what people do in its name.
(I laughed when I heard this next part but it's so true)
[Joe] "Hello! How are you doing?"
with a smile and upbeat attitude[Mike]
in monotone "Fine."
[Joe] "Then why the hell don't you tell your face???"
Life is about creating yourself.
Television helps us become more passive in person (same can be said about the Internet). If we didn't have TV... what would we do, where would we be? Many conversations are simply a monologue disguised as a dialogue. Real dialogues are selfless, rare and oh so marvelous; people actively listen.
Cards are so impersonal; dare to be original and write your own. "Roses are red and violets are blue and you're a sweetie (it wasn't meant to rhyme)." What's up with the whole "whose on my Christmas card list" war? Christmas kinda takes the fun out of gift giving the rest of the year. You give and receive so many at once. Why not give less more often?
What's up with inviting people that you don't really want to be around? Why not respect them enough to let them be where they are wanted and respect yourself enough to do what you really want to do?
People who love you will care and have expectations. It's how you know that they love you. People never tire of being told that they are loved, that they are appreciated.
Why do we wait until people are dead
to tell them how much we care,
to tell them "I love you"?
